IS HUMAN RELATIONSHIP NECESSARY – The need for a relationship is one of the fundamental human need. Social Scientist have long recognized the critical function relationship plays from the attachment so vital in infancy to the central role being actively involved in the lives of others plays for the elderly. Our daily lives are governed by a need to be accepted by others, to be valued and affirmed by them. By God’s design we all have innate need to love, be loved and belong. He made this clear in Genesis 2:18; “And the Lord God said, it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him”. The Bible emphasizes on the importance of human relationship as seen in Matthew 18:19 “ Again I say unto you, that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven”.
Relationship can be said to be a strong, deep, or close association or acquaintance between two or more people. It is the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected by blood or marriage.
On a journey through life, it is our relationships that influence us in other to do almost anything you can think of , you need the cooperation of other humans. Humans have evolved to cooperate, because cooperation gives us greater survivability. The bigger the organization, the more likely it will survive over the long term. We are mostly dependent on the co-operation of others for anything we want to accomplish. Humans need each other and those that co-operate are better off than other humans.
The relationship in question is encompassing as it involves both with family, friends, co-workers, teachers and even our next-door neighbor. This helps us form our sense of individuality and help us find our place in life. There are notably 5 types of human relationship namely Family, Romantic, Friendship, Casual and Professional relationships. In this article we would emphasize on the nature of man and the need to relate. The Bible in Hebrews 2 vs 6b. “…What is man that, thou art mindful of him? …” For a better human relationship you must understand the nature of Man. “ And we beseech you, brothers, to know them which labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you – 1st Thess. 5: 12
THE NATURE OF MAN
Man is tripartite as seen in 1st Thessalonians 5:23 “ And the very God of Peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole Spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
The above Scripture shows that Man is a Spirit, he has a Soul and he dwells in a body. There must be agreement in these three parts of a man for a better relationship.
- The Spirit Man – The Spirit Man is the real him. Without the Spirit, the body cannot function, because it is dead. The Spirit makes the body alive.“ Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the Spirit shall return unto God who gave it. “ Ecclesiastes 12:7 “The Spirit man is the candle of the Lord, searching all the inward parts of the belly.’ – Proverbs 20:27
- The (Mind) Soul – The Soul is the mind, the will, the intellect and the emotions. It is a crucial part of Man because it is the seat of wisdom. It is the link between the Spirit and the body. Agreement takes place in the mind. “ Can two walk together, except they be agreed?’ – Amos 3:3.
- The Body – It is the physical temple of man, in it are the Five senses. With the body, Man functions in this physical, material world.. The Five senses are likened to the window of the Soul, because it is from the five senses, the soul receives information. Without the body, the Spirit and Soul cannot function. “But if the Spirit of Man that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal body by His Spirit that dwelleth in you – Romans 8: 11”
“ I beseech you therefore, brethren by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a Living Sacrifice, holy acceptable, unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this World: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.. Romans 12:1, 2
The Spirit, Soul and body affect relationship. It is the responsibility of humans to allow a total union in these areas of Life. Jesus recognized the need to relate as seen in the Bible in Luke 2:52; “ And Jesus grew in wisdom and status and in favor with God and Men.” As a young man Jesus exhibited physical, emotional and Spiritual healthiness. We can assume he took good care of his body , respecting it as the temple of the Holy Spirit. He knew how to respond to people and as a result was respected by them as someone with integrity. We can evaluate Jesus strength to gain an understanding of the Four basic temperaments. They are the viewpoint about Life that motivates how we respond to circumstances. And people.
Since the days of Ancient Greece until the present day, its been confirmed that there are Four types of personality. These are broad basic personality types that are usually present in a unique mix that defines how you think, feel and behave. According to the scientific analysis all human personalities are commonly divided into four major categories
Below is a brief description of each of the above mentioned temperaments that best describes who you are as a person. You should be able to identify your strongest characteristics and that of people around you.
SANGUINE: This temperament is fundamentally impulsive and pleasure- seeking. They are expressive in personality, sociable and charismatic; generally warm hearted, pleasant, optimistic, creative, compassionate and outgoing. They are frequently referred to as the “talker”. A sanguine is a great volunteer, thrives on compliments and doesn’t hold grudges. This type of personality loves the life of luxury and impressing others, they are impulsive and often find it difficult to control their cravings. The bible character that best fit the characteristics of a sanguine are King David and Peter. They struggle with completing tasks, tend to forget obligations and are chronically late. They base their decisions primarily on feelings. Sanguine types can be great parents, because they love to have fun, but their homes are often frenzied and the only time you find everyone silent is when they are sleeping.
CHOLERIC: The Choleric temperament is fundamentally ambitious and leader-like. He has a lot of aggression, energy and passion and he tries to instill it in others. Dominant in personality. Choleric desire control and are best at jobs that demand strong control and authority and requires quick decisions and instant attention. Most Choleric are men and are born leaders who exude confidence; they are naturally gifted businessmen, strong willed, independent and self-sufficient. Negatively, they are bossy, domineering, impatient, quick tempered, easily angered, too impetuous and can dominate people of other temperament. They set high standards and are diligent and hardworking..
The Bible characters that seem to best fit the characteristics of a choleric are the apostle Paul, James, Martha and Titus. They are referred to as “the doers”
PHLEGMATIC: This temperament is fundamentally relaxed. They are referred to as ‘The watcher”. They are best in the positions of unity and mediation and solid in positions that desire steadiness. They are good at generalizing, seeing the bigger picture and reading between lines. They are interested in co-operation and interpersonal harmony and this is why they preserve their family and friendships. On the negative they are often selfish, self-righteous, resist change, stay uninvolved, dampen enthusiasm and can be passively aggressive. The bible Characters that seem to best fit the characteristic of a phlegmatic are Joseph, Timothy and Barnabas.
MELANCHOLIC: They are fundamentally thoughtful and referred to as “The thinker”. Their analytical personality desire caution and restraints. They are best at attending to details and analyzing problems too difficult for others. They are self reliant and independent and get wholly involved in what they are doing. Melancholic usually have a high degree of perfectionist tendencies especially in regards to their own lives or performance. They are very introspective and hold themselves to a very high standard – one that can rarely be achieved. They tend to worry much too often. The bible characters that seem to best fit the characteristics of a melancholic are Moses and Abraham. The biblical Characters listed above obviously possessed temperaments other than the one attributed to them, they were chosen because of the behavioral tendencies they demonstrated at various times in biblical history.
It should be noted that all humans have a degree of each of these four personality types within themselves, though each person will definitely test out higher in one with another being a close second. It is important to note that God is the one who has given you the abilities and sensitivities that you posses and these things have been given to you for a purpose that you might faithfully work at developing them and using them in His service.
Jesus is the perfect personality, He didn’t exhibit weakness of any of the temperaments, but he demonstrated all the strengths of all four temperaments. Just like Jesus grew in wisdom in Luke 2:52, , a deep understanding of the nature of a man aids our human relationship. Though our temperaments have been tainted by sin and the fall, God’s Spirit is mightily at work in us transforming us into the image of Christ, that we might be more effective workmen in His kingdom. “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord”.- 2nd Corinthians 3:18
We can respond through the power of the Holy Spirit in a way that would help meet the needs of people and overcome the weakness of our temperaments